Love’s Caress

The room was a good size, very generous by comparison to normal hospital rooms. Even when compared to other rooms in the Hospice its size and location made it a haven. The Hospice, which was created out of an imposing Queen Ann revival house (originally commandeered under emergency legislation when the surrounding Army hospital was being built in 1940), was a welcoming place, but there was much going on all the time. There was the usual medical activity (albeit with much less of the ‘clinical’ fuss that is common in other hospital settings), as well as a constant stream of visitors for the ‘residents’, who often brought meals and stayed for long periods, or even overnight. It was good to be able to withdraw at times. To rest. To be together, to be alone.

Over the weeks that had now extended into months, they had settled into a familiar pattern at night. It was almost a ritual. Because of her limited movement things had to be arranged so they could be at hand, as needed. They had worked it out, and he knew where things needed to go. The over-way was always on the left side of her bed, parallel, not perpendicular. A thick plastic cup, from the Hospice kitchen, filled with ice chips, and the smallest amount of cordial syrup, and a bendy straw. The jug, with water already poured into another glass. A small tetra pack of Sustagen…all within easy reach. On the right, the locker, moved on its castors to be within range, angled to the bed. On top, the Bible, reached for often and read, again and again. The CD player, ready for ‘play’ to be pushed. Pen, paper, glasses case…the usual things. And of course the phone…the lifeline to family. All to hand.

She loved the hot towel massage. Each evening, the nursing staff came, offering to minister gently the tender relief to limbs so debilitated with pain. Lavender and citrus filled the room, rising from the warm water. The nurses loved her, and she them. Ministrations so needful, and so gratefully received.

Then, the settling into the bed. A carefully orchestrated process. Bottom wiggled back. Then legs together. Turn and lift with gentle assistance. Grasp the hanging triangle, shuffle further back against the pillows and the raised backrest. Bed controller and call bell secured to the sidebar and within easy reach. iPod set and left on the quilt. Life was the Voice.

they would talk about the normal things. Her washing that he was taking home. The things he should bring tomorrow. Who would be visiting the next day. Medical appointments, radiotherapy (for pain relief not cure), which friends would transport them. It was all needed. And all so sad. But it was given from above, and they knew that too.

“My world had grown very small,” she said one night. Indeed, from one point of view it had. From another, it had never been larger. In her weakness, rivers of live and love flowed from her: Her small world was touching the nations.

One night, towards the latter days, he was getting ready to go home, after spending the day and evening together. By the time for the evening ritual all visitors had gone. It was their time. All things had been arranged, in her large, small world. Before he left, they held hands and prayed, and he leaned over to kiss goodnight. She, cosseted in pillows looking up. He, stooping over the edge of the bed, gazing down. Eyes locked in a gaze that held within it over thirty five years of love. Held by Love. Kept in theirs, by His.

Suddenly tears. Flooding down his cheeks as they held the gaze, and they both knew that soon, she would be gazing on another’s Face, and he would feel the absence so deeply. tears fell from him, splashing her pillow. She reached, tender caress of love, wiping them away. Stroking with open palms the face of him who felt so ill-deserving. they both knew and believed The Promise, that there would be, and is, a day when tears are wiped away, to be no more mourning, or crying, or pain. But here, now, the tears were real. The mourning and crying were real. The pain deep, real, constant.

The river of love flowed from her out to him. His face, embraced in her hands. Her face, so near to his. Both knowing it would not be for long this way. He was leaving to return to their house in the suburbs. But soon she would be leaving for Home.

“O, Sweetheart! i wish I could tell you how much the Father loves you! He loves you so very much! O’Sweetheart, the Father loves you. He loves you.” the gaze unbroken. the hands firm on his face. The word from her soul to his, deep calling to deep. From her eyes, joy. From her voice, hope. From her touch, love. The words from her lips came from heaven itself. She was, sin some sense, already there. Not wishful thinking – but a truth sure and steadfast. Both knew it was only Love that could hold them. It did. He does. And she knows it now, face to face, with him who loves them both.hospice

 

 

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About KLDue

I'm an Australian family medical doctor working in a private general practice--with a passion for evidenced based, clean, ethical, quality practice. My work involves searching out skin cancers, skin surgery, tailored skin advice for the every day person who needs to look their best, budget and natural skin care remedies, debunking urban dermatological myths (ie there is something worse than parabens; and leaky skin out ranks leaky gut!). I have a heart for mind-body-skin welless in all stages of life. I am inspired to live well in a small community without becoming small minded. I encourage GPs in rural settings to support their colleagues from other practices, to encourage difference and creativity and to seek to understand before seeking to be understood.
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